Did you ever see “Shall We Dance?” A line delivered by Susan Sarandon perfectly describes the reason that we commit to one another and, in a sneaky little way, holds the secret to choosing the best gift for Valentine’s Day:
We need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet… I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things… all of it, all of the time, every day. You’re saying ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness’.”
We all want to be noticed and to be cared for. In a commitment or a marriage, we promise to care about all of the things every day, all the time. As humans, it’s one of our deepest desires – to be noticed, heard, and understood.
In the lead up to Valentine’s Day, I feel a lot of pressure to find the best Valentine’s gift that embodies my deepest emotion – love. And then I remember what we each desire most is to be noticed and that I am the witness to my partner’s life. So what I want is a gift that reflects the fact that I have noticed; I am witness.
Sleep / Wellness
As I approach my 50’s, the focus of my life is adjusting. I’m exploring new dimensions of my life as I suspect many of us are. I find that I need to work more diligently than ever before to find and maintain my health. I also find that getting enough sleep is absolutely crucial to my being able to function. So this is a great area for so many of us to explore as the best gift for Valentine’s Day.
In The Sleep Revolution: Transforming Your Life One Night at a Time, Arianna Huffington explores our sleep deprivation crisis. Our society seems to regard being overwhelmed, over-scheduled, and under slept as some sort of badge of honor.
I know for myself and from talking to my friends, we are constantly feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. And this includes our spouses and partners.
So I am witness to the overwhelm and our need for sleep. As a witness, a perfectly loving gift would be something to aid in getting more quality sleep. (You could accompany any of these gifts with an overnight at a local hotel!)
Glass Teapot Juliet, 20oz/590ml: A cup of relaxing Chamomile tea will start your bedtime routine off right!
Just Because…You Noticed
Breville BES870XL Barista Express Espresso Machine, Brushed Stainless Steel: If you are certain that you own a brick or at least a booth at your local coffee shop based on how often you’re there, this is your answer!
Amazon Echo - Black (1st Generation): You must have this. You just must! Wait until you see all that Alexa can do!
- Plays all your music from multiple apps and more using just your voice
- Allows hands-free convenience with voice-control
- Hears you from across the room with far-field voice recognition, even while music is playing
- Answers questions, reads audiobooks and the news, reports traffic and weather, gives info on local businesses, provides sports scores and schedules, and more using the Alexa Voice Service
- Controls lights, switches, and thermostats with compatible WeMo, Philips Hue, Samsung SmartThings, Wink, Insteon, Nest, and ecobee smart home devices
Fujifilm Instax Share SP-2 Mobile Printer (Silver): I don’t know about you, but I’m constantly frustrated by the fact that my phone is loaded down with pictures that I never print! Here’s your perfect solution –
- Create instax photos by sending images from smartphones and tablets using the free SHARE app.
- High resolution images with print pixels of 800×600 dots and 320 dpi to show detailed gradations, facial expressions, characters or objects clearly. Uses 256 levels per color (RGB).
- 10 second printing time!
- Uses a rechargeable battery that charges via micro USB port; Available in Silver and Gold
UGG Australia Women's Bailey Mariko Redwood Sheepskin Boot 6 M US: There’s nothing better than warm, well-snuggled feet in the cooler months. Think hygge! There are also great versions for him!
MICHAEL MICHAEL KORS Selma Medium Saffiano Leather Satchel (Medium, Colorblock Pink Grapefruit): I am a serious FAN. I would have one of every MK bag if I could! This one is so cute in colorblock pink grapefruit. You’ll be getting all the compliments on this one!
kate spade new york Cedar Street Small Hayden Top Handle Crossbody Bag, Watermelon, One Size: My first every “designer” bag was kate spade. I still have it! Her bags are fresh, witty, and playfully sophisticated. A strong sense of personal style and a passion for color set the tone for each collection. kate spade continues to find inspiration in the everyday and the unpredictably elegant, bringing a graceful, exuberant approach to style and living. Everyone loves a Kate Spade bag!
I love this quote – let it guide you to finding the best gift for Valentine’s Day that she (or he!) will truly love and that will demonstrate that you have noticed!