How To Be a More Relaxed and Confident Homeschool Mom {With Printable}

Karen Patten

Spoiler Alert: After researching some of the reasons to homeschool that motivate other families to start homeschooling, this year I’m jumping in to homeschool my fifth grade son. As a rookie, I wanted nothing more than to be a relaxed and confident homeschool mom with a great answer to the question, “Why homeschool?” But I had no idea how or where to start – scheduling, organization, classroom hacks, record keeping, or even what supplies I needed. In researching, I discovered the most important thing I needed to know before starting anything. I’ll share it with you as well as a printable that I created  so you can start off on your best foot! You can start homeschooling- you can do this!

When I find myself in a situation that I’m not particularly happy about – instead of crawling into bed with the tv remote poised on Netflix and a bowl of homemade banana pudding… When I find myself in these situations – I know that I can take one baby step. I believe that I can, literally, do anything for one moment. And after that moment, I’ll tackle the next moment. And the next.

This year I am learning how to homeschool my son. As a beginner, I had no idea how to start - scheduling, organization, classroom hacks, record keeping, or any of the supplies I would need. I'd researched and known the benefits for my son of secular homeschooling for a long time.  Here are planning tips, ideas, printables, and I'll also share my reasons for homeschooling. You can do this. #homeschool #starthomeschool

And while I now know that there come times when I actually can’t do anything for even one moment – more often than not, I can be patient with my boys. I can definitely exhibit one moment of patience. And another. And another. And another. And another. And another. Ok – then I’m usually done. But, you see where I’m coming from?

I Was Scared – How Could I Possibly Be a Good Homeschool Mom?

Doubting my ability to be patient and empathetic with my son if we were together all day in homeschool was the one thing that held me back from homeschooling sooner than we did. If I couldn’t handle it, why homeschool?

I started this journey – as homeschooling kept popping into my mind, crossing my fb feed, and seeming more and more appealing – scared that I could not be what my son needed.

I was deathly afraid that I would not have the patience to handle this. My son and I are sooooooo much alike that we have finely honed our expertise at pushing each other’s buttons. And sometimes, he pushes the specific button that seems to have the power to obliterate any empathy that I have.

And I was scared. I was scared that I would be worse than his current school situation.

But then I found the secret sauce. I found what I needed to rely upon so that I could draw on an (almost) unlimited well of patience and empathy. I found my motivation and the thing that keeps me going.

I needed to figure out the answer to “why homeschool?” for my son in order to know whether I could overcome my fear.

Wondering How to Homeschool? Figure Out Your Reasons to Homeschool First

There are many wonderful reasons to homeschool kids these days: different learners, faster / slower learners, parental values, 2e kids, asynchronous kids, religious or spiritual convictions, local school systems that are inefficient and/or ineffective, family dynamics, lifestyle, world schooling or road schooling, safety concerns, to avoid bullying, the expense of private schools, teaching to the test, the list goes on and on.

I highly recommend that you start this journey by narrowing down your reason(s) or your why for wanting to homeschool. Your why will likely be as personal and unique as you and your family.

If you want my FREE Printable Worksheet: WHY Homeschool?

Click HERE  to receive a copy in your inbox immediately to figure out your unique reasons to homeschool your unique child.

I also suggest that you go through this exercise for each of your children. Your answers will likely be different for each child and you might discover that homeschooling may not be the right choice for all of your children.

You might also discover that you have multiple reasons for wanting to homeschool. That’s fine, too!

There are likely just as many “whys” for homeschooling as there are homeschool families. But determining your personal why and how it aligns with your family’s values is imperative.

On the worst days, knowing why you started homeschooling might just be all that keeps you going when you want to quit and you feel like you made a huge mistake.

Why Homeschool?

I’d been wondering whether or how to homeschool my son for a couple of years. I needed to determine my why for even considering it. I felt that all my other decisions about curricula, scheduling, home school programs, etc. would easily flow from there.

I don’t speak much about it on this site, but my son is exceptionally gifted. And, despite the common perceptions of gifted children, that doesn’t necessarily mean they are the ones easily sailing through school. They have their own struggles. His needs are different in school. I began to read and research and to discover that it is not unusual for gifted children to thrive when they homeschool.

While I was starting to read more about homeschooling gifted kids, I came across an article that so eloquently described precisely why I want to homeschool my gifted son. After reading it, voila! I knew exactly why I wanted to homeschool and I knew that re-reading this article would always be able to get me back on track on those days when I needed it. I had made my decision.

Benefits of Homeschool for My Son

I want my boys to do precisely what they were designed to do. And, for better or worse, what they are designed to do isn’t always what is expected, appreciated, or measured in schools.

I want to evaluate them on their own scale of what they were designed to do. This to me is the major benefit of homeschool for my son.

And I also believe that following this path leads to a lifetime of something much more satisfying than momentary happiness –  – joy.

It’s not the most worn path. It’s not a path with many markers; but it’s our path and it works beautifully for us.

Post Script…

Within twenty-four hours of making our decision, a blogger friend of mine shared this video. You know those times when you receive exactly what you need in exactly the moment that you need it? This was the confirmation that I needed for the decision that we made.

I saw both myself and my son in this and watched it over and over as the tears spilled from my eyes…

Even during the days where we butt heads and struggle – I have not for one second looked back. I have not ever stopped feeling immense gratitude that we are able to honor or belief that, for now, homeschooling is better.

My only regret is that I pondered our decision for so long. Let me say that if you are wondering; asking your friends; or lurking in a homeschool facebook group – I encourage you to recognize that you may already know the answer in your heart.

Don’t Forget To Pin This So You Can Always Refer Back:


This year I am learning how to homeschool my son. As a beginner, I had no idea how to start - scheduling, organization, classroom hacks, record keeping, or any of the supplies I would need. I'd researched and known the benefits for my son of secular homeschooling for a long time.  Here are planning tips, ideas, printables, and I'll also share my reasons to homeschool. You can do this. #homeschool #starthomeschool


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Hi, I’m Karen, the Atlanta mama, writer, and creator at Intentional Family Life. I’m a passionate advocate for intentional living so that you can experience all that you deserve for yourself and your family. Here, I inspire moms to chose what matters most and then to only do the things that move them closer to what matters most. Read More About Karen…

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