Parenting a highly sensitive child can be challenging. During school breaks or other changes in routines, activities, or schedules, some signs and traits of emotional or sensitive children may become more pronounced. As a mom, these tips were so helpful to me to learn when my child was struggling with difficult feelings or thoughts and how I could really help him get through a challenging situation. #emotionalsensitivity #highlysensitivechild #emotionsforkids

One Thing Your Highly Sensitive Child Needs From You

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It’s that time. The time when you feel your sensitive child is on high alert. Sometimes it’s the holidays. Or maybe a break from the school routine. And then there are the random times that there is more going on in your home than usual. It’s easy for you to feel stressed out or even burned out if the demands are overwhelming. And you know your child will struggle. Have you wondered what a highly sensitive child needs? Have you wondered if you have a highly sensitive child?

I’ve definitely been there and my highly sensitive child definitely needs special support from me during these times.

Any time when there is more than usual going on – lots of visitors, unfamiliar noises, sounds or smells, family, crowds, parties, or school breaks – a sensitive child might feel utterly overwhelmed. You might even feel like you want to pull your hair out. It’s stressful, busy, overfilled with activity, nerve-wracking and hectic – and that’s just for you! It’s even harder for highly sensitive children. Here’s the one thing I’ve learned to help prevent a meltdown before the world overwhelms sensitive children.

Highly sensitive children can be so easily overwhelmed, overstimulated, and just plain freaked out. Sometimes, there’s so much going on; it takes all you can do to hold it together. It’s precisely during these times when your child probably can’t hold it all together.

A Sensitive Child Needs Consistency

All children thrive on consistency and routine. It allows them to feel in control of what’s happening around them. During times filled with unusual, albeit exciting, activities, giving your sensitive child a routine becomes even more important. Many children thrive on having a routine that they can count on. For example, try to maintain a consistent sleep schedule and daily routine as much as possible.

When you can’t stay on your routine, a sensitive child appreciates a warning that things will change for a period of time. And they may need several reminders of each change in routine. So this means for each transition, you will want to remind your sensitive child of what is coming up.

When you know routines have to change, sensitive children appreciate consistency in as many other things as possible. For example, family photos with a lot of family members, a new place, expectations for “compliant” behavior, etc. can be overwhelming. Try dressing your child in familiar clothes that they like and feel comfortable in. Make sure you bring a snack for your child. Schedule some “downtime” for your child during the event. Agree on a signal with your child so they know they will have a break. Ask if they need a snack or a bathroom break. All of these things will help the sensitive child stay grounded.

Highly Sensitive Children Need Good Nutrition 

We all have behavioral expectations of our children. In order for children to meet age-appropriate expectations, they need both an immune system that keeps them healthy and a nervous system that functions optimallyChildren need nutrient-dense foods to maintain optimal functioning of all of their systems, including their immune and nervous systems. Their immune and nervous systems can become vulnerable during stressful or busy times.

Any significant changes in what children, especially sensitive children, eat can cause havoc on behavior. Do your best to limit your child’s intake of sugar and processed foods, especially when there’s a lot going on.

Unfortunately, I know this is exactly the time when it’s harder to do because you’re often in a hurry. Try to find a moment to put together some healthy snacks in containers you can quickly grab as you leave the house. Fruit and peanut butter make a great on-the-go snack. I keep a canvas bag handy; I can quickly throw in rice cakes, apples, carrot sticks or baby carrots (that I’ve already prepared or that I find in single serving size bags), and a container of peanut or almond butter. Do your best to substitute whole, unprocessed fruits or other healthy treats – these are genuine “fast food.”

Plan Ahead For Your Emotionally Sensitive Child

It takes a village. But your village can’t help you if they don’t know what you’re dealing with. Let your family and friends know anything special that you want to adhere to for your child. For example, at bedtime, it’s easy to be thwarted by a well meaning friend who says “Let her stay up just a little longer! She’s having so much fun!” What they may not know is that your whole family may pay the price tomorrow. Make sure that family and friends know ahead of time your bedtime plan – or whatever plan it is that you’d like to adhere to for your child.

Sometimes a sensitive child may want to open holiday or birthday presents throughout the day – or if there are too many – the next day. Maybe your child likes to take his time with his gifts, my oldest certainly does. Make sure that he feels safe in doing that – that he won’t be rushed or maligned.

Planning ahead helps your village support you and it helps you provide the support that your sensitive child needs. While you’re planning ahead – think of yourself and do everything you can to reduce the expectations that you place on yourself. A stressed out mom makes for a stressed out highly sensitive child!

At any time when you may be performing specific acts of kindness, know that this may be hard for a highly sensitive child and plan ways that you can help and encourage him, while still leaving plenty of time to complete the project.

The Calm of Nature Grounds Sensitive People

Nature has a natural calming and grounding effect on us all. When times are really busy, your sensitive child can be grounded by any simple activity in nature. Take a walk, go to a park or a playground, play a game in the backyard together, or collect found objects. One of my favorite simple activities is to make a bracelet of 2″ masking tape with the sticky side facing outward. As you walk, your child can stick all of the items she collects right onto her bracelet! Or have a “hearing treasure hunt.” Being quiet – see how many things you can “find” with your ears…the rustle of the leaves, the chirp of a bird – so  much is there waiting to be focused on!

Nature organically puts your senses to work – sight, smell, sound, and touch. I think it’s the combination of outdoor air and putting all of your senses to use that makes being outside so calming.

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Highly Sensitive Kids Need Connection with You

The one thing that all children, but especially sensitive children, need the very most is you. Make sure that you schedule and carry through with one on one time with your sensitive child. We all love to do activities that we are drawn to – but your child most appreciates your willingness to enter into her world. So set aside some time to read a book, cuddle, build, play dress up or have a tea party with your child if that’s what they love. It’s important that your sensitive child understands that you value time when you have one another’s undivided attention.

So I promised you a common thread. But what is it?  Somebody told me once or I read somewhere (I can’t remember, otherwise I’d tell you…) that if you have high expectations of your sensitive child – there are two potential outcomes. First, if you set high expectations yet offer little support to help your child reach those expectations, your child will fail and feel like a failure.

BUT, if you set attainable, but high, expectations (as you should) and offer an equally high level of support, your sensitive child will get through those irregular, crazy, busy times with both success and a positive self image! 

I’m always careful to make sure that I don’t set expectations beyond reach. If your sensitive child has had a busy day, outside his normal routine, or he has had little “down” time – it might not be reasonable to expect him to go out to dinner. Your highly sensitive child may need some down time before he can meet your expectations. You know your sensitive child best!

That’s what you’re going for; what a highly sensitive child needs the most is a lot of support from you at the right time! Your support can help them meet your expectations during times when we all can become stressed out and overwhelmed.

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